At one point, you were desperately looking for a husband so you could settle down and have the whole 2.5 kids and white picket fence. The idea of getting on a dating app, meeting someone for coffee, or even texting a man fills them with fear.
As you start to meet men, see how many items they can check off your list of wants.
A girl doesn't want to commit to the guy she "has a thing" with, but she gets mad when she sees that he is liking other girls photos on Instagram. Ask the person that you've always wanted to get to know better to hang out (in person!
I'm not sure when these actions became acceptable substitutes for real life conversations or dates, but it's happened and it needs to change.
You’ve been out of the game so long, you’re not even sure where to begin. Where in your 20s, you didn’t worry about much beyond whether he was going to call (on your landline, at that), now you have to deal with online dating, dick pics (yea, they’re real), and textiquette. The bike might be electric these days, but you’ve still got the skills. Making a list of the qualities and characteristics you want in a boyfriend or partner is an excellent way to get clear on what you’re looking for. While you might not meet a man with 100% of the items on your list, you can at least keep focused on what you want so that when you meet men that in no way fit what you’re looking for, you can quickly move on.
I’m not saying I can’t or won’t; it’s just hard to imagine caring enough about someone to want to make room for them in my life.My last date before I got married was at a time when people didn’t have computers or smart phones. Only doctors had mobile phones and they were as big as a shoe box! And which of the trillions of online dating sites should you use? The first time I saw the commercial for that, I thought it was an skit! When I first got divorced I felt like I couldn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to change my furnace filter, change the string on the weed whacker or fix my washing machine when it started leaking all over.Out of necessity, I learned how to do these things. Sure, it would be nice to have someone to do those things and to help out, but when it comes down to it, I am capable of taking care of everything on my own.The thought of fielding pick-up lines from guys at bars can make you hyperventilate.Going on a date and not knowing the rules because the last date you went on was 20 years ago, can be a really scary thing. Weeding through hundreds of guys who probably want to make a suit of my skin, trying to find that one gem who not only is not a serial killer, but who also chews with his mouth closed can be daunting.