The problem is far worse when the perfectionist pastor considers leaving town for a vacation.He almost panics at the thought of people needing him and he being unavailable. Pastors learn to function with people angry at them or they do not survive in ministry.And some of them, honesty forces me to admit sadly, don't make it. Pastors are the point men for whatever is taking place in the church. Their phone number is on speed dial for most leaders of the church, particularly the ones with a gripe.Church staff members often forget this aspect of church ministry.The only way he can survive in the ministry is to turn it off and get his rest.If he is a perfectionist and cannot sleep until "all the children are in bed," that is, until all the loose ends are tied up, he will not make it.
If you get a preacher who is sinless, you may discover him to be harsh and mean-spirited toward the likes of you; you are a sinner in need of grace, whereas he meets God as an equal. I used to hear of preachers who were "mama-called and daddy-sent." In time, I met one or two. The work was too hard, the expectations too high, the rewards too few. To be honest, the pay is a lot better these days (as a rule) than when I started in the early 1960s.
I sat in his chair for 90 minutes, completely uncomfortable the entire time.
At the end, my jaw numb, I handed his receptionist my debit card and watched as she withdrew from my checking account over a thousand dollars.
All I know is that I've seen it in myself (especially when I was young) and encountered it in a sizeable portion of ministers through the years.
During the five years I served the SBC churches of metro New Orleans as leader, pulling the pastors together to encourage one another was my heartbeat.