By then, societies had already gone through several changes.
Between 1000-1300, William II, Duke of Aquitaine, introduced “love lyrics”.
But troubadours, unlike their modern crooning counterparts, asked women to NOT offer sexual favors (now, there’s a switch, right?
)But nearly every Historian agrees that the Industrial Age, particularly post 1900, brought out more women flirting than ever before.
Where at one time, a woman offering tea to a gentleman was seen as an act of hospitality, now it could easily be viewed (in the wishful mind of the male) as a “come on”, because common courtesy has become so rare.
When you think about it, from a Christian stand point, this doesn’t even sound like something a Christian should do.
For those who don’t know what the word “amorous” means, it comes from “amare” or “amore” and means to be ” strongly moved by love, especially sexual love”.
Whether intended or not, people can be aroused by words (unless they’re well prayed up and determined to practice self-control). ” Well, aside from being tacky, it’s “flattery without merit”.
Please note as well, in the secondary definition, that the “likening” is superficial or casual. Chances are, if you’re honest, you’ve heard or said something about kissing, fondling, holding, touching, appearance (not to be confused with a genuine compliment like “you look beautiful tonight”), etc.
Go to any bookstore, or even on the internet, and you will find scores of information about how to flirt.
Bible scholar and teacher, Nathan Bailey, applies the Cherem to flirtation this way: “If you have committed your hear to God, it becomes consecrated to Him, just like you tithe- it is Cherem. Roland Johnson, bible student, had this to say about flirting: Apparently, for those who “only flirt in jest”, this isn’t the truth. This is something the person better think about before joking, because flirting does involve “amorous” behavior or talk. Conservative talk show host, Rush Limbaugh, criticizes liberals by pointing out that they don’t usually mean what they say: “Words have meaning”, Limbaugh says, and rightly so. Applying this to flirting, if you’re saying flattering words, especially sensually flattering words, and more importantly, ones you do not mean, then you are defiling yourself because, in essence, you’re lying. What he does want them to be built upon is something longer lasting and enduring: RESPECTFUL LOVE.
And then, if you invite someone to lust after you (by flirting), you bring a curse on them, because they desire something that is Cherem”. Like the little boy who pulls the little girl’s pigtails (because he likes her); or the teenage girl who drops her books (hoping that the boy she likes will pick them up), flirting is about as far away from God’s design for male-female love as a crush is from an actual honeymoon!